More than anything else in my life right now I am absolutely obsessed with this blog. I've been reading it for the last 2-3 hours instead of doing the hours and hours of work that I actually need to do.
Go here now!! It's fascinating. Its just made me think about myself, my marriage, my insecurities, my short comings, my quirks, and my strengths. It's been making me completely examine my life, which I think is incredibly worth while. It also reminds me of just how hard dating is. How sometimes no matter how hard you try, things just don't work out. After reading this blog I'm reminded of how impossible dating sometimes seems. We all have baggage, were raised differently, and have so many things we love/hate/want/need/are. How can two people ever match up when we're all so different? But sometimes they do. Sometimes it all works. You have to work at it, but it just makes sense.
Reading this blog I really want these two to be a couple. I really want it to "work out." But that's just because I've been raised on American romantic comedies and Jane Austen novels. You always want to believe that people can be in love, and that it can (and will) last. You want to believe that people can work it out, and be happy forever. I don't think I'll ever stop wanting to believe and see that. Because I think it gives me hope in my own relationship; that my relationship is and will always be something worth working for. No matter what.
Perhaps the best advice my dad (or anyone) ever gave me came about a year ago. He said, do you want to know what the hardest thing will be to do once you get married? And I said, I don't know. Not get divorced? (My parents are divorced and my dad has been married 4 times, so it's sort of a greatest fear of mine. Besides drowning, or my breaks cutting out on the freeway.) And he sort of laughed and said, no. Just don't get divorced.
Just don't get divorced.
"It's good, it is work, but it's the best kind of work, and there's no one I'd rather work with."
He got a lot of flack for this quote after calling their marriage "work," but he was just being honest! Relationships are work! For me, the very best things in life (and the things I'm most proud of) come from hard work. I find it so gratifying and satisfying. It proves that I care enough about something to give it all I have. My husband and I have worked very, very hard on our relationship over the past 3 and a half years and I'm so proud of where we are today. And to me there's no greater compliment than to say: It's the best kind of work. And there's no one I'd rather work with.